Couples who separate or divorce can find a profusion of advice about how best to do it. More often than not that advice ends with: “Stay out of court”. One of many experts who say this is Dr Anne Gold Buscho.
Family separation is a major emotional and practical stress. And especially for the children. An adversarial legal system is not a helpful approach.
Everyone knows this already without experts telling us. Dr Gold Buscho helps by listing “Seven ways to cope with separation or divorce”.
- Allow yourself to grieve the loss of hopes and dreams.
- Support is critical – friends, family, support group or professional help. Don’t isolate yourself. Don’t turn to your children.
- Take care of yourself physically.
- Engage in self-care – cultivate routines and activities that relax, nurture and fulfil.
- Focus on the future.
- Emphasize good communication with your ex – particularly for the children’s sake.
- Seek legal advice – understand the legal and financial aspects, rights and responsibilities. And she ends with:
Stay out of court.
Read on for more on how the changing direction of advice helps establish a health-based approach instead of a legal one.